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What comes to mind when you think of a bully. Do you picture a tough, violent boy? Most studies do focus on guy bully but boys arn' tthe only bullys. Girls are also bullys, instead of taking the violent side of bulling, they use a whole differnt tactit: emotional violence.

__**Girl Bullying**__

Bullying is frequently putting hurtful acts upon another indivdial on purpose. It is also how one of the person has total power over the other. Bullying is the most frequently occuring violence in America today and is the biggest problem for kids 8 to 15 (Irene Zundel). "Unlike boys, who tend to bully acquaintances or strangers, girls frequently attack within tightly knit friendship networks, making aggression harder to identify and intensifying the damage to the victims. Within the hidden culture of aggression, girls fight with body language and relationships instead of fists and knives. In this world, friendship is a weapon, and the sting of a shout pales in comparison to a day of someone's silence. There is no gesture more devastating than the back turning away. (Rachel Simmons talking about her book Odd Girl Out on SIRS knowlegde Source). Being singled out, ridiculed, excluded, or alienated is a form of bullying. Being beaten up emotionally on a daily basis does damage to the victims(Mike Hardcastle). At age 11, 25% of boys and 14% of girls report bullying others. And at least 22% of boys and 26% of girls report being bullied (Louise Chang, MD). media type="youtube" key="g3segQowexE" height="344" width="425"

__**How Girls Bully **__
 * Verbal: Talking be-hinds ones back or talking bad about the person right infront of them. This also inculds gossiping and spreading nasty rumors abou the person.
 * Exclusion: Not inviting someone to hang out, ignoring the person not lettign people join their group. This is the most common form of girl bullying. Also giving the person the "silent treatment"
 * Cyber-bullying: sending mean emails or ims about the person, blogging badly about the person or sending mean stuff about or to the person on facbook, myspace, twitter, etc.
 * Scare Tactics: threating to not be friends anymore or threanting to hurt them
 * Phone Calls: prank calls to the victim or repeadtly callign the person

__**Effects of Girl Bullying**__

Girls and boys suffer from great effects from being bullied. Victims of bullying often experience negative behaviors such as vandalism, shoplifting and drug use and commit serious crimes when adults. Since girl bullying rarely leaves scars, there is more of a phycological scaring. More serious effects of bullying is suicide. Kids who are bullied suffer from depression, sleep problems, school grade problems, weight gain or loss, changing schools a lot,revenge, anger, lonielness nad low self-esteem There are many cases in which a girl is bullied so bad that she kills herself to ease the pain.

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__**Why Girls Bully**__
 * They learn these habits from home life. They could have come from a family with abusive parents or have been bullied by older siblings. They bully to take the control that they lack at home
 * Sometime they bully because they are insequre. Sometimes bullies have low self-esteem and bully a girl about it before the girl has a chance to bully her about her insequreties.
 * They want to feel in control and powerful. Girls will often gang up on a weak, low self-esteem girl to show her their control
 * They want attention. Girls will bully mostly because they think if there mean or gang up on a girl, then they would be "popular". Most of the time this is true.
 * They sometimes they have issues. The girl might be having trouble or school or maybe she doesn't have a good home life. This usally makes a girl bully. She may seem tough on the outside but on the inside shes hurting.

__**Examples in the Media**__ There are many expamples in tv shows, reality tv and movies that show how girls bully. The movie Mean Girls is one example on girl bullying. It displayes on how common girl bullying is in High School alone. The movie shows how sneaky and decitful girls can be. Cady Heron moves from South Africa to the U.S to finish up High School. While there she crosses paths with the "Queen Bee" Regina George. Cady realizes the only way to take down Regina is to be sneaky and pretend to be her friend while she quitly sabbotages her. media type="youtube" key="52u6AD19wGk" height="344" width="425"

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