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=**How do teens in the modern day cope with moving? **= ​**Why Move? **
 * How should one react when faced with a life changing event? Whether it be losing a family member or someone close to you personally. Or be it a complete remodel of an individual’s life. According to the book //Psychological effects of Relocation. “//Approxiamately 20% of American Families move every year, they change their residence and establish a new address”. Why do that percentage of people move? And put themselves through such a stressful event. It may be due to change in marital status, greater economic opportunities, conflict in family or outside life. Or even trying to get the best for your child(ren). **
 * For most families a move is due to job changes for a parent, child or relative. One may be promoted or laid off. But it also may be a case where they don’t have a choice. For example if the company moves or goes under new management etc. Most children or teens express distress when moving to a new school. No one wants to be “the new kid”. Children can overcome struggles of finding your niche or friends, but for teens and preteens it is said to be more difficult. Some teens have to out of their way to introduce themselves. Often teens find their close friends in extracurricular activities, it is encouraged to get involved. **
 * When moving to a new state or community it is vital that the teen moving keeps in touch with previous friends. TeenGrowth.com says “that teens adapt better to a family relocation when they are involved from the beginning”. Parents should update the child and keep them informed throughout the experience. After moving visits with friends from the old school/ town are suggested to maintain healthy relationships. Probably one of the things people most often forget is that when faced with a relocation of the family or home you need to keep an open mind. You will not survive such an event without staying positive and walking on the Brightside. **
 * Many occurances have suggested that when a teen does not have a good first day of school, they think of one thing. They will most likely blame themselves, for not fitting in or being cool enough. When something of that nature happens they need to have a strong relationship with someone be it an old friend, a parent or a sibling because they will want someone to fall back on. **

= = ====** According to The American Academy of Matrimonial Law, “almost half of the people relocating in the U.S. is do to a change in marital status” (AAML 1). This may make it harder or easier to move away depending upon the situation. Most kids whose parents get divorced end up moving away from one of the parents, which can cause depression, anxiety and various other disorders. A move has to be a seamless event in order to keep things generally the way they were. For kids to adapt right to new surroundings they have to be comfortable with how they used to live and how they will now be living. ** **Once the teen has accepted where they will now be living, things start to crumble. The first day of school is always the hardest part and it doesn’t get any easier from there. I, having a first hand account with moving from a different state I thoroughly understand what it takes to cope with your new life. At first moving from your previous town or school feels like your life has been ripped out from under you. Suppose you had a competition for a sport coming up in a few days but you’re faced with tragedy and you break your leg. It feels as if everything you have worked for has been taken away from you. It’s not a good feeling but teens face that feeling everyday when they are told they will be moving. A life that you once knew so well is now gone, and you have to start over. But I listened to what my mom told me even at my lowest of lows I needed to trust that it would get better. Conclusion I hope that with every stride I’ve made through my whole experience I’ve found out more about myself than anything else. Through every struggle of moving and hoping that things will improve a teen just needs to remember who they are above all. Relocation is a very hard and overwhelming event to deal with for not only the child but the rest of the family as well. To cope with a situation such as this one, you need to remain in touch with your old friends, be open with yourself and your new friends to come and don’t judge anyone even yourself.** ==== ====** Here are some cool websites: ** This is a neat website that has various life situations and helpful hints [|www.helpguide.org]====

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Works Cited Becca Hess //American Academy of Matrimonial Law//, AAML. Web. 27 Jan. 2010. [|http://www.aaml.org]. Despres, Renee. //The Truth About Family LIfe//. Los Angeles: Chronicle Books, 1994. Print. Watkins, Skip. "Finding a Job, But Moving A Family." //Ebsco Host// 26 July 2009. //EBSCO//. Web. 27 Jan. 2010. .